Being vulnerable is not as easy for some as it is for others. The very word honestly makes me cringe and feel a little queasy in the stomach. Why? you ask. Because in order for me to be vulnerable I need to feel safe, and in order for me to feel safe I have to be willing to take a risk and drop my walls. Truthfully we don’t know a space is unsafe until something happens to let us know. By that time it’s likely that something has already hurt us. So basically when I’m saying I don’t want to be vulnerable I’m actually saying PLEASE DON’T HURT ME!
We really need to lean into our faith and use wisdom when it comes to our safe spaces and vulnerability. Not every person or place should get access to the deep places of you, and thats ok. What I am learning is how to identify what spaces are safe and which ones are not. Everyone is not out to get us! I’m also learning how to give a truer representation of myself to the world, because she’s necessary and there is a safe way to let her out. How do you identify safe spaces? If this is a struggle for you, you’re not alone. There’s hope!